What is grief?
Grief is a natural response to loss and an experience that everyone will go through. Grief doesn’t only occur when we lose someone we care about, we can grieve a relationship, home, pet, job, or imagined future. The greater the loss the more intense the grief will be. Grieving is not a linear process and there is no set time frame for grieving.
GRIEF CAN FEEL LIKE:
YOU MIGHT ALSO FIND YOURSELF:
Will I ever feel better?
You will feel better but your grief may never completely go away. When it comes to grief there is no
set time frame for healing. There will be good days when you feel in control and more like yourself again, and there will be hard days when you feel like you have gone backwards, and your grief is overwhelming. It’s important to remember that this is the grief process – it is not linear, or straightforward. It is normal though, and healthy.
These are some things that helped other young people to navigate grief…
Movement is super important for your mental health, and it can be a great way to shift how you are feeling. You could move your body by playing sport or going for a swim. It could also be as simple as doing some slow stretching or going for a short walk. Move your body in whatever way
feels right for you right now.
- ‘Friends and support systems.’
- ‘School and routine.’
- ‘Being busy.’
- ‘Good facilities and systems of support such as having a psychologist.’
- ‘Connecting to people with similar experiences.’
- ‘Disconnecting from toxic environments.’
- ‘Voicing my story.’
- ‘By helping others I can make meaning of what I have been through.’
- ‘Planning something exciting to focus on and work towards.’
What do I say to my friends?
Your friends will want to be there for you but they might not know how. The best thing you can do is to communicate with them what it is that you need.
For example; sometimes you might want to talk about what you are feeling and other times you might just want to have fun and be distracted for a night. Let your friends know where you are at that moment so they can best support you.
Here are some things you can say if you feel stuck:
- ‘I’m not feeling up to talking about it, can we just do something normal?’
- ‘I’m missing them today and I’d like to talk about some memories I have of them.’
- ‘I’m not feeling great, do you have time to talk about it?’
- ‘I don’t feel like speaking right now, can we just sit in silence together?’